Exponential Detritus

Do you recall what was the deal the day the music died?

As regards the onetime love of my life: either I’m the devil incarnate or I’m long suffering and beloved and misunderstood.Why can’t we just try to be friends and try to agree on what’s best for our kids and get on with our lives? Why does he always save his biggest tantrums for the weekend? Never mind. I’m pretty sure I know the answer to that one. I don’t want to “win” or be always in the right or anything like that.I’d settle for having my input valued on occasion and maybe not being told what to do and how to do it all the time. I don’t want much, just a tiny bit of privacy and a chance to go out on occasion (without being followed!) and some time to be a mommy to my girls without having to be a full time martyr. Sometimes he gives me money when I need it. I wish I could say no, because it’s not support and it’s not a loan. He’s trying to buy me and when it doesn’t always work I get punished. If tonight were any night but Saturday he wouldn’t hate me, I guarantee you.And the total fucking irony there is that he gets so bitter and angry because he wants me back, but the uglier he behaves the less inclined I am to ever remotely consider it. For all the hurt I ever caused I never intentionally inflicted pain on the level he’ll casually toss at me in a five minute telephone conversation on a Friday afternoon. I can’t spend my life with someone capable of being that hateful no matter what the justification. That can’t be a good thing for my girls to see. If they have to see that, then they also need to learn that the proper response to that kind of treatment is to walk away from it. So that’s what I’ve done. I feel bad for him, but not so bad as to let myself be crucified just to soothe his bruised feelings. Fuck that. It’s my first Saturday night free in three weeks. I think I’m going out tonight whether the dishes ever get finished or not. I think if someone didn’t come in to inspect the cleanliness of my house all the time I might be less reluctant to clean it. I think I may have a dog that needs a new home: male labrador mix, three years old, very friendly, needs lots of energy that I just don’t have right now.

Where do I get my humour and faith and strength as a human being? I think in all honesty it may be just the mental energy I save by never cleaning my house.

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Information is power. And the internet is almost pure information.Think
about that a bit. Now think about it in a political context. And read the
following article:

From Alternet.org: The Revolution Will Not Be Televised

I think most people fail to realize one of the simplest concepts graspable, which is that we are all basically selfish bastards at heart, and that what makes us human is the process of overcoming that. It isn’t really that nefarious a concept. It’s simply basic biology and human nature. The hierarchy of needs and all that. We are born into this world with an instinctual urge to seek out shelter and food and comfort. Our basic mammalian instincts force us to seek out our own happiness. Humanity is the process by which allowing for the needs and concerns of others to become part of that process of taking care of ourselves as individuals. When the knowledge of the sruvival and happiness of those around us become a neccessary part of our individual well being. Love is the unnatural state in which another person’s happiness can content you and when their pain becomes inextricably entwined with your own. The fact that any other human being can take the great and wondrous leap from a primary concern with self preservation to caring enough about another human being to empathize with or love or even hate them is rather a miracle in and of itself. The fact that there are people in our lives at all, regardless of how difficult they may be to make allowances for, is just kind of amazing. Perhaps we should appreciate that more. Count our blessings or whatever. Just a thought.

Corbid Waxing Philosophic on A Thrusday

When my kids are here it’s too loud and chaotic to clean, but when they’re gone I’m too lonely and depressed to do anything useful and I end up avoiding my responsibilities and trying to rope people into talking on the phone with me instead of working. Fuck it, I’m going to drink a couple of Fat Tires and go to bed way too early like a big loser and hope that the motivation faery visits me in the night…

The latest Corbidful mix CD consists of the following:

“Lisa Says” – The Velvet Underground
“Dirty Old Town” – The Pogues
“House On Fire” – Boomtown Rats
“Cupid’s Got A Brand New Gun” – Michael Penn
“Speak My Language” – The Cure
“Oh Me” – Nirvana (Meat Puppets Cover)
“Unwashed and Somewhat Slightly Dazed” – Bowie
“Hey Jack Kerouac” – 10,000 Maniacs
“Father Lucifer” – Tori Amos
“Julie Anne” – Ben Folds Five
“Elephant’s Graveyard” – Boomtown Rats
“Spare Ass Annie” William S Burroughs w/ Kurt Cobain

“The last time I saw you was down at the Greek’s, there was whiskey on Sunday and tears on her cheeks…”

Dreamt I was on trial for crimes of being human in a soulless world.

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